It's been a long while since i posted, as many things happened at home... And it just sets me thinking about LIFE, my life...
The different kinds of people in the corporate world are:
#1 Sole bread winners: Some people who hard all their lives to put food on the table, to make ends meet. They cannot stop because everything is depended on the works of their hands. They are very hardworking people who through honest means do what they could and appreciates the stability of there jobs.
#2 Ladder climber: They climb from ladder to ladder, trying to achieve more in life. They are driven to promotions and outdoing others. Some by righteous means, others by stepping on others to reach another step higher.
#3 Bridge builder: You might have heard this before, 'it's not what you know but who you know'. to a certain extend it is true, but some people make use of the relationships they built to their advantages and benefits. They build relationship with a purpose in mind.
#4 Fu er dai: This is a commonly used terms for people who are born with silver spoon. Some are born in gold spoons. They do not need to do much and have everything they want. What they have is more than what they can spend.
#5 Dreamers: Everyone dreams to do something they like and they want in life. Dreaming of the better life and the possibilities into the future. They may come out with many great items but never step out of where they are.
#6 Dream chasers: People who dream and give up all that they had, the comfort and security to chase those dreams. Do they get the kind of life they dream of?
It's easy for people who sits behind a desk and get money coming into their account every month, with or without a lot of work to do, to complain about work; pay too little and what is required of them... Isn't that why they are receiving a pay cheque in the first place?
Many people say that they envy me, that now that i am a boss, i get to go around doing whatever i want. Not having to work as and when i want. No stress and no worries. No need to see the face of a boss, and how they desire the kind of life i have...
Speaking from experience, starting a shop had been the hardest thing in my life by far. The amount of money, effort and hard work i put into this is far greater than you can think or imagine. The amount of stress i go through and how i have not drawn a salary but have to worry about the salary of my staff. The sweat and the tears involved. If today you want to be a dream chaser, I would encourage you to step out and live your dreams! But first, count the cost. Know how much are you willing to put into making this dream a reality and how far are you willing to go... how long are you willing to go without getting paid till everything stabilises.
Because, only when your dream can last the distance, you can reach #7.
#7 Bai shou qi jia: These are the minority of people who started out without anything. They are not people who are born with silver or gold spoon. They may even be from a humble family background (like me), who live out their dreams. What brought them there was not good luck, but perseverance and hard work. Fighting through the good times and the bad. Not giving up on what they have set their hearts to do.
Some day, we may wake up comparing the advantages and disadvantages of being born with silver spoon and feel that life is unfair. But at the end of the day, what really matters is not where we started from, but where we are heading to and how we are getting there.
I forgot when was the last time i shop and bought something i like for myself, because of the amount of things that i need to be concern about. And i guess, i am last on my own list. I'm praying that i can persevere though and that God will provide me with the strength, ability, productivity and provision to hang on till the promises come to pass!
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Thursday, October 1, 2015
The truth behind the LIFE we all desire to have
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Saturday, July 18, 2015
Vanity Fact #3 - Time and Life
On my way home, i heard this saying..
We have a general mindset of how life should be..
birth -> baby -> childhood -> teenage -> youth -> adult -> mid-life -> senior -> elderly -> death
At every stage, we can't wait to grow to the next stage
and we always tell ourselves "someday i will do this"
"hopefully, someday i will do that".. "someday~" "someday~"
Until a day, where sickness or unforeseen circumstances strikes...
we say "If only i had did this"
"i wish i have done that"
Most people will tell you that
"i want to live till 60, or some 70, 80"
but do the bees count their days?
do the fishes in the sea and birds in the air count their days?
"Vanity of vanities, all is vanity"
This just remind me of all that Pastor Tan shared in service today.
Vanity - for it is uncontrollable and uncertain
Who can be sure of what is going to happen tomorrow?
For the rain will fall when the clouds are heavy
To be alive is a miracle in itself
Will you be thankful in good times and in bad times?
Will you rejoice in them all, knowing that God is in control
He is the Creator of both Day and Night.
How will you live your life?
Counting your days? or
Trusting God that He is in control and that everything will fall into place according to His time.
There is no one template fits all, when it comes to our life.
one thing i know...
All things works together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose!
We have a general mindset of how life should be..
birth -> baby -> childhood -> teenage -> youth -> adult -> mid-life -> senior -> elderly -> death
At every stage, we can't wait to grow to the next stage
and we always tell ourselves "someday i will do this"
"hopefully, someday i will do that".. "someday~" "someday~"
Until a day, where sickness or unforeseen circumstances strikes...
we say "If only i had did this"
"i wish i have done that"
Most people will tell you that
"i want to live till 60, or some 70, 80"
but do the bees count their days?
do the fishes in the sea and birds in the air count their days?
"Vanity of vanities, all is vanity"
This just remind me of all that Pastor Tan shared in service today.
Vanity - for it is uncontrollable and uncertain
Who can be sure of what is going to happen tomorrow?
For the rain will fall when the clouds are heavy
To be alive is a miracle in itself
Will you be thankful in good times and in bad times?
Will you rejoice in them all, knowing that God is in control
He is the Creator of both Day and Night.
How will you live your life?
Counting your days? or
Trusting God that He is in control and that everything will fall into place according to His time.
There is no one template fits all, when it comes to our life.
one thing i know...
All things works together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose!
Thursday, January 1, 2015
Thankful for the girls!
This group started in 2007 with just 2 girls... and we grew... and doubled... and multiplied!
From teenage life, where we were busy about BGR... Hanging out late into the nights (like 4am), 3-4 times a week... Complaining about school and the petty little things...
To watching one another get into serious relationships, sharing the joy and the tears...
To organising Hen's night parties, preparing for the big days.. Weddings... Baby showers... Housewarming.... and many more to come!!!
Maybe some people are envious on how we could keep the friendship strong despite of the different faces of life... Honestly, being a all girls group, you will know that it hasn't been easy... We had our fair share of ups and downs, struggles, joy and unhappiness, disagreements and disappointments...
Could we still be like how we were 8 years ago? meeting up 3-4 times a week till wee hours of the night? certainly NOT! Sometimes we hardly even meet up more than 7 times a year...
As i grow older... i'm not petty about whose right or wrong, who should do more or less, who deserve this or that... these all doesn't matter anymore.. I'm just thankful...
Very thankful for friends who stick it through good times and bad times... through different seasons and faces of life... through increase of commitments and expenses... still give their time and gifts (food and more food) and LOVE for one another!
Only friends can do crazy stuff together and yet laugh about it! I love you girls! 2015 will be a year where we will see each other a lot more!!! with the babies, new homes and weddings coming our way!
From teenage life, where we were busy about BGR... Hanging out late into the nights (like 4am), 3-4 times a week... Complaining about school and the petty little things...
To watching one another get into serious relationships, sharing the joy and the tears...
To organising Hen's night parties, preparing for the big days.. Weddings... Baby showers... Housewarming.... and many more to come!!!
Photos includes our partners and babies!
*missing our Eileen Soon & Family (in Kuching)
Maybe some people are envious on how we could keep the friendship strong despite of the different faces of life... Honestly, being a all girls group, you will know that it hasn't been easy... We had our fair share of ups and downs, struggles, joy and unhappiness, disagreements and disappointments...
Could we still be like how we were 8 years ago? meeting up 3-4 times a week till wee hours of the night? certainly NOT! Sometimes we hardly even meet up more than 7 times a year...
As i grow older... i'm not petty about whose right or wrong, who should do more or less, who deserve this or that... these all doesn't matter anymore.. I'm just thankful...
Very thankful for friends who stick it through good times and bad times... through different seasons and faces of life... through increase of commitments and expenses... still give their time and gifts (food and more food) and LOVE for one another!
Only friends can do crazy stuff together and yet laugh about it! I love you girls! 2015 will be a year where we will see each other a lot more!!! with the babies, new homes and weddings coming our way!
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Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Build it like your own!
As the date draws nearer for the collection of my keys, great anticipation builds up and I can't wait to move my things into the bigger space and also get the best things for my house! The last letter stated Aug/Sept and now that Aug is over... September it shall be! :)
But before all these, we had a great time planning together how we can give and build the house of God in this upcoming building fund! This is my 11th building fund and it will be the first time we are pledging together as a couple! :D
Year after year, I looked forward to the building fund because it is really not about building buildings but building lives! Since my first building fund in 2001, I have seen how relationships have developed, lives have been built and transformed. Personally, since joining City Harvest Church in year 2000, my own life has been greatly impacted and changed, I would not be where I am now if without God and then people He placed in my life. I believe that it is God who placed me here and He bless me so that I can be a blessing!
Suntec is not just a piece of land or a place, it is our promise land. Yes, there are giants in the land and will require a fight, but if God has given us this vision, He will give us the provision! This is not out of the will or desires of a man but a promise of God. I was there when we prayed, we fasted, we confessed and we visualized, before this vision was birthed. "This is a place in the marketplace, for the marketplace, to serve the marketplace!" Not for glamor or for fame, but simply to serve the marketplace, to build lives and most importantly to build God a house. I remembered how I had this phrase printed on A3, with an image of a stadium, pasted on the wall of my room so that I can visualize, pray and confess together with the Church every single day till this vision was birthed!
Just like how anyone will be excited for their new house and want to get the best for their homes, I think God's house deserves the BEST! Unequal amount, but equal sacrifice! Build it like it is your own! This is my church, this is my house, this is my life!
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Sunday, September 1, 2013
Friend or foe
This has always been a question in my mind. I'm not sure if I am over thinking or does anyone thinks about this as much as I do. I think I review this all the time especially with all the recent happenings. But still I guess some things never change and some things do change over time.
There's a saying in the Chinese, that "friends keep you close, but enemies keep you closer".
Have you ever felt like you are not sure whether someone is a friend or a foe?
Of course this don't happen to me all the time but a few times/person I guess. Friends who are so close but yet they give you a vibe that is strange, sending a shiver down your spine and leave you wondering... I always believe in giving people a 2nd chance or the benefit of doubt, believing that over time things will change!
There are friendships that I will say that I am willing to protect with my life, because I believe that friendship has got eternal value. But I guess if Jesus had judas and He still loved him till the cross, I need to accept the fact that there will always be people who are close to you for a different motive and may even deliver you to the cross.
It takes more than just love to lay down your life for those who persecute you and sent you to the cross. It takes the perfect love of God, agape.
Monday, November 5, 2012
Touched. Moved.
Just read a blog that brought tears to my eyes.
I wish I could have known how you felt all along so I could be there to understand what you were going through better.
I wished I could have understand and know how all of you felt and what all of you are going through so I could be a lot more understanding.
I want to stop thinking that I know it all because I know I don't!
It is not about me, it's all about you.
I thought I lived the best I know how, till I realized the things you were going through.
I pray I'll move.
My heart, to pray for every single one of you, for all that you are going through.
To believe with you, the kinda dreams you have!
To live, to laugh and to love together.
Honestly, I missed the times we had.
Now that all of you are busying about things you care, maybe it was me who did not care enough.
I want to be apart, I want to be there.
Walking through the pain and sharing all the joy.
Lord, teach me how to care.
Not so that you will obey, but just so that I can be there.
Thanks for opening up and sharing with me your life, because it really mattered to me.
As much as how it all mattered to you. It really does to me.
I'll be praying together with you, believing for that future you hold.
I know you will make it through, no matter how bad the storm may seems.
The time will come, when everything will be made beauty in His time.
I know and I'm sure.
I wish I could have known how you felt all along so I could be there to understand what you were going through better.
I wished I could have understand and know how all of you felt and what all of you are going through so I could be a lot more understanding.
I want to stop thinking that I know it all because I know I don't!
It is not about me, it's all about you.
I thought I lived the best I know how, till I realized the things you were going through.
I pray I'll move.
My heart, to pray for every single one of you, for all that you are going through.
To believe with you, the kinda dreams you have!
To live, to laugh and to love together.
Honestly, I missed the times we had.
Now that all of you are busying about things you care, maybe it was me who did not care enough.
I want to be apart, I want to be there.
Walking through the pain and sharing all the joy.
Lord, teach me how to care.
Not so that you will obey, but just so that I can be there.
Thanks for opening up and sharing with me your life, because it really mattered to me.
As much as how it all mattered to you. It really does to me.
I'll be praying together with you, believing for that future you hold.
I know you will make it through, no matter how bad the storm may seems.
The time will come, when everything will be made beauty in His time.
I know and I'm sure.
Thursday, August 2, 2012
COCO CHANEL
Fashion serves as a blueprint that helps to define an era. However, just like what i have always said, it's always about our personal style that we should go after rather than the fashion trends and Gabrielle 'Coco' Chanel said the same, "Fashion passes, style remains!"
Hugh Richard Arthur Grosvenor, Duke of Westminster and Coco Chanel
Coco Chanel at Lido Beach in 1936
Coco Chanel and Vera Bate at the Duke of Westminster’s, Scotland, 1925
Coco Chanel with Winston Churchill
Coco Chanel and Jeanne Moreau, Paris, 1957

Gabrielle Bonheur ‘Coco’ Chanel, 19th August 1883 - 10th January 1971
A woman ahead of her time; ahead of herself. She was fiercely independent, worked her way up from the bottom, and fought against paralyzing constraints against women at the turn of the 20th century, by mixing up the vocabulary of male and female clothes and created fashion that offered the wearer feeling of hidden luxury rather than ostentation are just two examples of how her taste and sense of style overlap with today’s fashion.
Gabrielle was sent to the Aubazine orphanage run by strict nuns, where she spent time as a ward of the state after her mother died and her father ran off. She hated her years there, yet, inspired by her memories of the nuns who had raised her, and by servants’ uniforms, she decided to make black more chic by adding white at the neck and the cuffs. Then her signature monochrome look was born. No doubt the sisters at the convent in Moulins, who took her in when she was 17, raised their eyebrows when the young woman left the seamstress job they had helped her get to try for a career as a cabaret singer.
“I have already said that black has it all. White too. Their beauty is absolute.“
She had picked up the nickname Coco while singing in local nightclubs aged 18, where her favourite song was about a missing dog called Who’s Seen Coco In The Trocadero?. It stayed with her forever.
This stint as a performer — she was apparently charming but no Piaf — led her to meet millionaire socialite, take up with the local swells and become the backup mistress of heir Etienne Balsan, a playboy who would finance her move to Paris and the opening of her first hat business, lifted her into the world of the upper classes to which she desperately wanted to belong.
“In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.”
She was one of the first designers to adapt typically masculine clothing for women’s fashion, using elements from each of her lovers’ wardrobes. Wearing her own distinctive styles, Coco stood out from the other ladies in Balsan’s group and caught the eye of the man who was to become the love of her life, wealthy English polo player Arthur “Boy” Capel. He financed her first boutique in Paris’s Rue de Cambon in 1910.
As business grew she opened three more shops in rapid succession. The American fashion press was crazy about Coco’s daringly simple style and she became a hit on both sides of the Atlantic. Her success was meteoric and she soon paid back Boy every penny he had lent her.
Chanel would not have defined herself as a feminist — in fact, she consistently spoke of femininity rather than of feminism — yet her work is unquestionably part of the liberation of women. She threw out a life jacket, as it were, to women not once but twice, during two distinct periods decades apart: the 1920s and the ’50s. She not only appropriated styles, fabrics and articles of clothing that were worn by men but also, beginning with how she dressed herself, appropriated sports clothes as part of the language of fashion. One can see how her style evolved out of necessity and defiance. She couldn’t afford the fashionable clothes of the period — so she rejected them and made her own, using, say, the sports jackets and ties that were everyday male attire around the racetrack, where she was climbing her first social ladders.
It’s not by accident that she became associated with the modern movement that included Diaghilev, Picasso, Stravinsky and Cocteau. Like these artistic protagonists, she was determined to break the old formulas and invent a way of expressing herself. Cocteau once said of her that "she has, by a kind of miracle, worked in fashion according to rules that would seem to have value only for painters, musicians, poets."
Throughout the ’20s, Chanel’s social, sexual and professional progress continued, and her eminence grew to the status of legend. By the early ’30s she’d been courted by Hollywood, gone and come back. She had almost married one of the richest men in Europe, the Duke of Westminster; when she didn’t, her explanation was, "There have been several Duchesses of Westminster. There is only one Chanel." In fact, there were many Coco Chanels, just as her work had many phases and many styles, including Gypsy skirts, over-the-top fake jewelry and glittering evening wear — made of crystal and jet beads laid over black and white georgette crepe — not just the plainer jersey suits and "little black dresses" that made her famous. But probably the single element that most ensured Chanel’s being remembered, even when it would have been easier to write her off, is not a piece of clothing but a form of liquid gold — Chanel No. 5, in its Art Deco bottle, which was launched in 1923. It was the first perfume to bear a designer’s name.
The pre-war years in France from 1935-1940 were rich in the decorative arts, putting trendy fashion designers front and center. It was a time when Gabrielle Coco Chanel was “rethinking the suit” to allow for the way women really move.
“Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress.”
One could say perfume helped keep Chanel’s name pretty throughout the period when her reputation got ugly: World War II. This is when her anti-Semitism, homophobia (even though she herself dabbled in bisexuality) and other base inclinations emerged. In 1939, at the onset of World War II, Chanel closed all her shops, claiming that it was not a time for fashion.
Then Hitler invaded Poland and World War II shattered the dream world of endless cocktail parties and silk and organza gowns made to order. The Germans invaded and occupied France.
Hooking up with Hans Gunther von Dincklage, a Nazi officer whose favors included permission to reside in her beloved Ritz Hotel Paris, where she stayed for more than 30 years. (She would die of a heart attack in her private suite here in 1971.) During this time she was widely criticized for having an affair with a German officer and Hans Gunther von Dincklage, the Nazi spy who arranged for her to remain at the hotel during the Nazi occupation of Paris.
In 1943, after four years of professional separation, Chanel contacted Vera Bate Lombardi, who had been her muse and public relations liaison to a number of European royal families since 1925.
Lombardi had offered Chanel the highest connections possible to build the House of Chanel. These connections allowed for the fashion house, and the designer herself, to rise to creative, romantic, social and political power. The guise for Chanel’s 1943 contact with Lombardi was for her original muse to return to work at Chanel, but there was much suspicion surrounding the real reasons. When Lombardi refused to comply with the request to come to Paris, she was arrested as an English spy and thrown into a Roman prison by the Gestapo. After the war was over, Chanel was arrested by the free French for suspicion of collaborating with the Nazis. She purportedly offered this explanation for sleeping with the enemy:
“Really, sir, a woman of my age cannot be expected to look at his passport if she has a chance of a lover.”
It is generally believed that Winston Churchill intervened with the French government, convincing them to let his old friend Coco Chanel escape to Switzerland. She moved to Switzerland in 1945, but returned to Paris in 1954, the year she also returned to the fashion world.
Due to her much publicized relationship with the German officer, her new collection was not popular with Parisians. However, it was much applauded by the Americans, who would become her most loyal customers.
“There is no time for cut-and-dried monotony. There is time for work. And time for love. That leaves no other time!”
She invented the classic look, the slick elegance which was later adopted by American business women. Coco Chanel believed in an unmistakable look. This look is not subject to eccentricity and fashion. This look is flattering woman and is easy to wear.
“Innovation! One cannot be forever innovating. I want to create classics.”
Coco was not just a fashion trendsetter, but a tough businesswoman. She believed her job – above everything – was simply to sell clothes. And, unlike most other designers, she was happy when she saw cheap copies of her clothes on the streets of Paris.
According to Chanel, the biggest mistake for a woman is in trying to change herself. Because the real happiness is in not changing.
She once said,
“I do not like when people speak of the Chanel fashion. Chanel is, above all, a style. Fashion passes, style remains.”

By the late ’60s, Chanel had become part of what she once rebelled against and hated — the Establishment. But if one looks at documentary footage of her from that period, one can still feel the spit and vinegar of the fiery peasant woman who began her fashion revolution against society by aiming at the head, with hats. Her boyish "flapper" creations were in stark contrast to the Belle Epoque millinery that was in vogue at the time, and about which she asked, "How can a brain function under those things?" Something that Chanel can never be accused of is not using her brain. Her sharp mind is apparent in everything she did, from her savvy use of logos to her deep understanding of the power of personality and packaging, even the importance of being copied. And she was always quotable: "Fashion is not simply a matter of clothes. Fashion is in the air, born upon the wind. One intuits it. It is in the sky and on the road."
It is fitting, somehow, that Chanel was often photographed holding a cigarette or standing in front of her famous Art Deco wall of mirrors. Fashion tends to involve a good dose of smoke and mirrors, so it should come as no surprise that Gabrielle Chanel’s version of her life involved a multitude of lies, inventions, cover-ups and revisions. But as Prada said to me: "She was really a genius. It’s hard to pin down exactly why, but it has something to do with her wanting to be different and wanting to be independent."
Certainly her life was unpredictable. Coco dedicated her life to the pursuit of style and never lost her love for clothes. In 1971 Coco Chanel died at Paris’s Ritz hotel, where she had lived for more than three decades.
“If you’re born without wings, do everything you can to grow some.”
“Luxury must be comfortable, otherwise it is not luxury.”
“I love luxury. And luxury lies not in richness and ornateness but in the absence of vulgarity. Vulgarity is the ugliest word in our language. I stay in the game to fight it.”

“Nature gives you the face you have at twenty. Life shapes the face you have at thirty. But at fifty you get the face you deserve.” – Coco Chanel
Coco Chanel and Jeanne Moreau, Paris, 1957
In her life, you see reality in style more than fantasy in fashion!
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Rainbow after the Storm

In life, there will always be storm...
Life is never gonna be a bed of roses...
but i know the promise of the rainbow will come...
There will be sunshine after the rain, a rainbow after a storm...
i am not afraid to go through storms because i know someday it will end..
and someone out there is always watching over me.. =)
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