The Parenting Journey

I have been down with flu the past few days and cannot stick close to Zara.. so i decided to take some time to write about how was the journey thus far..

The past months have been quite a journey as i learn to be a mother..
learning, reading, experimenting about parenting...

The one thing i learnt is really that parenting is like a religion and you should NEVER enter into a debate with anyone about parenting style :p

There are different school of thought for EVERYTHING!
- Eating methods
- Sleeping methods
- what milk formula
- what moisturiser
- discipling methods

There are always different ways of doing things and which is the best way?
I believe, different parents + different child = requires a different method
Even same parents, different child requires a different method
A method works for one doesn't mean it will work for all
but i think parents should be open to try different methods if one does not work, until you find the method that works best for you :)

TRANSITIONS
When a training method is in place, there may be times that you will realise that you are moving backwards in the training.

Take for example: sleep training, suddenly you realise that your child wakes up in the middle of the night for milk.
don't panic :)

There are different transitions that will cause sudden change in habits example:
- growth spur
- travelling
- break in other routines
- sickness
- changes in environment
- new inclusion to family

Don't worry about these periods because they will pass and they do not mean that your method is not working :)

Gift from God

Some may ask: 'Is there a faith crisis?'
I would laugh at that question.

First of all, we believe that Zara is a gift from God :) going through many different seasons of life in the past 5 years, i think Zara is the best gift thus far.

Though she did not came about as many have expected and could only accept, I believe we have prayed and God has answered our prayer in His very own way.

I believe she is in the plan of God and brought to us through different angels.

Some may know that the waiting process was also not easy through the constant changing and uncertainty about the outcome of the baby. Somehow, we just know that God has reserved her for us.

Romans 8:28

All things works together for the good for those we love Him and are called according to His purpose

Falling in love with her at first sight and every single day after.

Thankful for the girls!

This group started in 2007 with just 2 girls... and we grew... and doubled... and multiplied!

From teenage life, where we were busy about BGR... Hanging out late into the nights (like 4am), 3-4 times a week... Complaining about school and the petty little things...

To watching one another get into serious relationships, sharing the joy and the tears...

To organising Hen's night parties, preparing for the big days.. Weddings... Baby showers... Housewarming.... and many more to come!!!

Photos includes our partners and babies!

*missing our Eileen Soon & Family (in Kuching)

Maybe some people are envious on how we could keep the friendship strong despite of the different faces of life... Honestly, being a all girls group, you will know that it hasn't been easy... We had our fair share of ups and downs, struggles, joy and unhappiness, disagreements and disappointments...

Could we still be like how we were 8 years ago? meeting up 3-4 times a week till wee hours of the night? certainly NOT! Sometimes we hardly even meet up more than 7 times a year...

As i grow older... i'm not petty about whose right or wrong, who should do more or less, who deserve this or that... these all doesn't matter anymore.. I'm just thankful...

Very thankful for friends who stick it through good times and bad times... through different seasons and faces of life... through increase of commitments and expenses... still give their time and gifts (food and more food) and LOVE for one another!

Only friends can do crazy stuff together and yet laugh about it! I love you girls! 2015 will be a year where we will see each other a lot more!!! with the babies, new homes and weddings coming our way!