Why mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws always have problem?

Exactly whose problem is this? For centuries and all throughout history, this seems to be a problem that cannot seems to be solved. So... I am not going to be giving you a solution either.

However, being a daughter-in-law and a future mother, i tried to understand what will cause me to be upset with someone who i think is trying to spend her rest of her life with my son. So let's try to analysis this together!

First of all, any girl who finds a man whom she love wishes that he will develop into the man she always what him to be. She may even wish that the man will be somewhat close to how their father is like. At the same time the man wishes the woman will grow into the likeness of their mother, In that process, it is inevitable for the couple to grow into the soul-mate of one another.

Then what causes the mother-in-law to be upset? Every mother loves their son just the way they are, the way they brought them up to be. When the son develops in the relationship, he slowly changes from the mummy's boy into the man the woman of his life yearns for. Hence, it causes the mother to think that the girl is trying to change her son, in her (protective) perspective, she believes that it is against the will of her son.

Believe it or not, i think that one of the way to make things better is for the son to bridge the gap. If the son remains loving to the mother and shares with her what is going on and let the mother grow together with his changes, it will be easier for the mother to see and develop together with the son, to love this woman whom he loves. At the same time, build the relationship between them, spending time together.

Only when the man loves and honors his mother, will the woman of his life learn to love and honour his mother. Many times, the man avoids talking to the mother about this woman and gets all defensive. So, whose problem is this exactly?




If the man could be a good bridge, mothers and daughters-in-law can be the best of friends! To the mothers, instead of losing her son, she can gain and daughter. And to the woman, she will gain a family and it will be a heaven on earth rather than a living hell. :P